How very sad for a person to die before they have had a chance to make amends with someone even if that someone is themselves. Forgiving someone or yourself for past misjudgments or actions can be a trial that can last a lifetime.

I am seeking self-forgiveness and I often find the biggest obstacle in forgiving myself is me.

I know it is important to ask God for forgiveness and I have asked. I believe in my heart He has forgiven me.  My own insecurity is holding me back from fully allowing myself to accept this forgiveness.  The Bible says that when God forgives us, He “remembers our sins no more” (Jeremiah 31:34). In other words, He is saying, I forgive you so move on with yourself!  I am trying hard to remember that if an awesome God can forgive a wretch like me, I should be able to forgive myself. If God has moved on, shouldn’t I do the same rather than remain a victim of my own scorn?

I realize the longer I avoid truly forgiving myself, the longer I allow myself to harbor the feelings that I deserve to suffer. Self forgiveness will bring me the peace I desire. Simply letting go of what I am holding against myself will better enable me to move on with my relationship with God and with others.

The reality is I cannot change what has happened.  It is time for me to forgive myself and let the healing begin.



Bucket List Idea #3

Resolve a conflict or forgive someone.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

Is there someone in your life you need to forgive or is there someone you need to ask forgiveness?  Why not give yourself the opportunity to to let go of this heavy burden?

It’s a hard thing to do—to completely let go of something painful and forgive. It is not easy to forgive when we feel like we have been wrongly hurt.

Sometimes there are obstacles.  Is your personal sense of justice or righteousness getting in the way?  Do you get a little personal satisfaction by brooding or sulking?  Sometimes when we get hurt, we want to hurt back; we want the other person to suffer as we are suffering.

Refusing to forgive leaves an open wound in our heart.

Perhaps you need someone to forgive you.

But, what if the person you need forgiveness from is not willing to forgive you?

Unfortunately, there are sometimes things you just can’t fix.  Sometimes things are so broken that they cannot be mended.  This can be very hard to accept.

My only advice is to pray for that person, pray for what has been broken to one day be restored, and pray you have the inner strength to move on with your life knowing you have given it your best effort.

Don’t put it off any longer. Take this opportunity to release not only yourself, but the person you need to forgive or need forgiveness from.

 “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~ Lewis Swedes