Be more than an “I love you”

I wrote this post last February and it is actually one of my favorites.  Since Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, I wanted to share it one more time:  

What does it mean to love someone or to be loved by someone?  Maybe it is the security of knowing that we occupy a place in someone else’s heart or the significance we hold in someone’s life.

Maybe it means that in spite of our silly oddities, our looks, and our imperfections someone can see us for who we are…..and they love us anyway.

We are someone who matters to somebody else.

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Once in a while the words “I love you” can be just that ~ words.

Over the years I have learned (sometimes the hard way) about love and relationships.  Not just in the romantic sense like the love I share with my spouse, but also the love I share with all my children and grandchildren, my BFF, my extended family, and other meaningful people in my life.

The most important thing I have learned is: It is the ACTION taken that can create the strength, emotion, and significance of those three simple words.

For example:

  • Supporting each other is essential in any relationship ~ marriage, parenting, friendships.  Have each other’s back.  Celebrate successes and comfort disappointments.
  • Respect one another because you each deserve the other’s respect.  Treat each other the way you wish to be treated as you express opinions, thoughts, dreams and desires ~ make these matter as much to you as it does to the other.
  • Be a safety net and refuge from the outside world.  A person you can always trust.  Strive to create an environment that is a welcoming place of comfort, joy and peace.
  • Commitment takes work, commitment is not easy, and commitment must become a priority. Become the “something that you want to last forever” every single day.
  • Forgive the forgotten item at the grocery store and forgive the forgotten birthday present. Forgive when the other lashes out because they are tired after working hard all day.
  • Forgive the other for not knowing what you needed when you really thought they would or should know. Forgive the other when they fall short even when you know they are trying their best. Forgive because no one is perfect.

Be More Than An “I Love You”

A Rare Find

Since Valentine’s Day is approaching I just have to say a few words about my Valentine.

My husband has a way of making me feel good about myself and I think that is what attracted me to him in the first place. Ever since we met, I have told him how lucky I am to have him in my life.  I jokingly tell him I want the words “I’m so lucky” inscribed on my tombstone.

He respects me and my opinions.  My husband encourages me and he accepts me the way I am. For example, I squeeze the tooth paste in the center of the tube, he neatly rolls it up. My closet needs to be straightened every single week, and his stays neat all of the time. Sometimes when I look in the mirror first thing in the morning or after arriving home from working all day and see my disheveled reflection I always think and sometimes say to him,“Thank you for loving me!” 

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This is one of my favorite photos taken about eight or nine years ago.  I love to see this sweet smile every single day!

Cooking dinner almost every night, making my lunch to take to work, massaging my feet in the evenings (yes, he really does this), and putting me first in all things are daily occurrences in our home.

He makes me laugh and is openly affectionate. Although he has his moments, he rarely complains about anything or anyone and is usually upbeat and positive.

My husband is truly unique and a one of a kind gem.

Ephesians 5:33However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

Be More Than An “I Love You”

What does it mean to love someone or to be loved by someone?  Maybe it is the security of knowing that we occupy a place in someone else’s heart or the significance we hold in someone’s life.

Maybe it means that in spite of our silly oddities, our looks, and our imperfections someone can see us for who we are and they love us anyway.

We are someone who matters to somebody else.

i-love-you-more-clipart-1

 

Once in a while the words “I love you” can be just that ~ words.  Over the years I have learned (sometimes the hard way) about love and relationships.  Not just in the romantic sense like the love I share with my spouse, but also the love I share with all my children and grandchildren, my BFF, and my extended family. The most important thing I have learned is: It is the ACTION taken that can create the strength, emotion, and significance of those three simple words.

For example:

  • Supporting each other is essential in any relationship ~ marriage, parenting, friendships.  Have each other’s back.  Celebrate successes and comfort disappointments.
  • Respect one another because you each deserve the other’s respect.  Treat each other the way you wish to be treated as you express opinions, thoughts, dreams and desires ~ make these matter as much to you as it does to the other.
  • Be a safety net and refuge from the outside world.  A person you can always trust.  Strive to create an environment that is a welcoming place of comfort, joy and peace.
  • Commitment takes work, commitment is not easy, and commitment must become a priority. Become the “something that you want to last forever” every single day.
  • Forgive the forgotten item at the grocery store and forgive the forgotten birthday present. Forgive when the other lashes out because they are tired after working hard all day. Forgive the other for not knowing what you needed when you really thought they would or should know. Forgive the other when they fall short even when you know they are trying their best. Forgive because no one is perfect.

Be More Than An “I Love You”