People of all ages can be cranky from babies to old people.
We all get grumpy and there are times when being grumpy or cranky is understandable. For example, an incompetent waiter, or an unusually long and unexpected wait at an appointment or restaurant. Maybe it is the clerk who won’t stop chatting to the person in front of you while you are in line at the grocery store when you are in a hurry to get on with your day. Hot flashes, car trouble, not talking to a real person on the telephone when I have a question or need help, and short green lights are a few things that are triggers to my “cranky side”.
Sometimes, if someone accuses you of being grumpy it can make you even grumpier!
Even though there are many things that make can make you feel cranky, a lot of us are able to get over it and get on with our generally happier, more content selves.
But some people seem to be in a constant bad mood. Nothing seems to make them happy. The slightest things can throw them into full grouch-mode. The thing is, they don’t get over it.
Getting them to even smile is a monumental task!
I usually can’t tell when they are being funny because the typical cues such as a mischievous twinkle in their eye or the lips curling slightly into a grin just aren’t there.
Perhaps some of these folks were just born with this type of personality.
If it is an older adult maybe this is their way of saying/demonstrating they don’t like being old. In their defense, I am beginning to see how frustrating and frightening it is to realize your body and mind are declining. But still!!!!!
After personally knowing some cranky people, and encounters with grumpy strangers, I decided many years ago that I am NOT going to be one of them.
Sometimes, I admit, they can be entertaining. But mostly, they are unpleasant to be around.
I wish I could tell them to just stop and listen to themselves. What you say can have such a profound effect on others and it is all in the delivery. Our words are among the greatest tools we humans possess. Stop for a moment and simply think about the words you say and (the key point here is) then how you say them.
It takes such little effort to be both positive and sincere. If these cranky grumps could only realize that by making others happy and being pleasant to be around, their own happiness could greatly improve. And (hopefully) in the process, become less cranky!!
“You’ve had the power all along, my dear” Glinda,the good witch (The Wizard of Oz)
“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are.” J.K. Rowling (Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets)